Sunday, January 10, 2010
The Question?? To Decorate a Grave? To Dress a Grave? Or Not To Dress Or Decotate? What Is Too Much? What Is Your Taste?
In my small family cemetery we have always been of the mindset that less is more...A tidy grave shows mountains of respect as opposed to a grave with mountains of “silk” flowers, stuffed animals, flying things, hanging things, figurines..You name it and many graves have ALL of it on them. When I was living in Florida a few years ago, a family who had an unexpected death just told the funeral home to bury their loved on in my family cemetery! None of the family members knew this family...no one gave them permission to bury in the cemetery...Had someone just asked we would have probably invited them in...No one asked...Go figure that one!!!
And to boot, they chose a spot in the front of the cemetery and piled the grave...MOUNDED the grave with everything you could possible imagine; complete with a dragon that glowed in the dark. Even putting white plastic lawn chairs there stacked up against a tree…Boy, oh boy did my phone ring off of the hook with unhappy family members and neighbors of the cemetery!!!! After repeated calls and seven years of trying to negotiate a truce with the “squatting” family...I have tried to see their point...To a point… Luckily, they didn’t take a sledge hammer to my mother and grandparents monument as promised. Down here in the South cemetery ideas are a contact sport!...BUT… (to be continued)